- Cultivate a friendship with your partner by taking time every day to confide in one another, listening attentively to each other's feelings and ideas.
- Actively nurture respect by paying attention to your partner's positive qualities. Focus on what attracted you to each other in the first place.
- Always behave respectfully toward one another. Never call each other names, belittle each other or make unkind comments in front of other people.
- Validate each other. Pay each other compliments. You have the power to tear each other down, but you also have the power to build each other up.
- Listen to each other... healthy couples share power.
- Forgive. You won't survive if you can't move past harm the other person has caused. It may take some time, but find a way to work through it together.
- Take a break. When a conflict heats up, issues are more likely to appear. Step away for twenty minutes to calm your body down, and then resume the conversation.
- Pick your battles. Not everything is worth fighting for; some things you just need to let go.
- Keep things positive. Gottman's research has shown that a five to one ratio of positive to negative interactions makes a relationship last.
- Work on yourself. Don't put all the responsibility on your partner's shoulders. You are half of the relationship.
|Bonnie & Clyde - photo from texashideout.tripod.com|
It could be deemed ironic to show criminals in a post lamenting immaturity. In defense of romantic rosy glasses, Bonnie was deeply in love with Clyde and stuck by him through very tough times - even to their bullet riddled death. Do they still make that kind of passion? I haven't found it.